NOT HAVING THE SEX YOU WANT?
Aug 29, 2022
Here's how....
I’m calling bullshit on the ‘spontaneous s.x is the best s.x’ debate.
Fuck no, it’s not. And if you are a busy, tired and bored couple, listen up.
You need to be scheduling sex. There. I said it.
Now let me explain why.
1. Three words: Intention, Importance and Presence. Let’s face it, you’re busy AF. Your calendar tells you so. When you schedule your s.x and intimacy you get to tell your relationship how much it is valued and how much you value the connection with your partner.
2. The Scene: Time frame, environment, that new thing you want to try, who wants to do what, with what, and where. Thus, you get to explore and experiment with the lovin’ you DO want. Which equals wanting it more. Duh. Plus, this will most likely lead to more spontaneous s.x too.
3. The Heart & Pussy Connection: It can take time for the pussy to warm up. It can take time for you to unwind and open your heart. Did I mention time? Yeah, I did. So give your pussy and heart the gift and presence of your time. You will be rewarded in multiple orgasmic pleasures.
Now, your mind will probably become very sceptical when you contemplate ‘scheduling’ sex.
You will likely think things like:
1. The sex you are having now is already boring. Meaning you aren’t IN it, because you’re in your head judging the experience. And fuck, scheduling in more boring sex, well that’s just dumb.
2. You feel burnt out, resentful and talking about this ‘schedule it in’ BS gets you feeling pissed off - aka not the warm and fuzzies.
3. Scheduling in s.x is only for couples that have lost that spark and passion for each other (that one’s a myth, but let’s go with it).
Another thing that sounds stupid is investing thousands of dollars and oodles of energy into literally, everything else, but never investing in uplevelling your love-life.
Now, you were probably never told how important your s.x life is for your love-life, but unfortunately dissatisfaction and disconnection in the bedroom inevitably leads to separation, becoming platonic best friends, or worse, housemates with the person you married.
Yep, I said that and I’m not taking it back - because my clients are mostly women that this has happened to. Yet, in saying that, they shift to feeling the most sexually confident they ever have because #nevermakingthatmistakeagain.
My point is, you can have the s.x life you long for.
And it starts with you.
I will help you uncover, unfurl and bloom into the juicy, turned on and erotically confident woman you truly are under all that armour.
You’ll fall back in love with your love life
You’ll fall back in love with your s.x
Author
Allonie Morris
Somatic Sexologist
Allonie Morris is a passionate Somatic Sexologist, Tantric Practitioner, creatress of Temple Venus and host of The Sexy, Sacred & Juicy Woman Podcast. Allonie is also a riveting speaker of eroticism and sexuality, workshop facilitator and a specialist in Erotic Embodiment.
