5 things I learnt while being a Sex Worker.

embodiment erotic pleasure Jun 01, 2022

5 really important things I learnt about pleasure, embodiment and of course sex, whilst being a full time Sex Worker.

  1. Sex is better when the other person is into it, like really into it.

And what I’m referring to here is the authentic pleasure experience that is unbridled, uninhibited and fully expressed. Not shrouded in self judgement, Critism and body image issues that is keeping you disconnected from fully enjoying yourself and your lover.

Now this can look different on many fronts. Ie, estatic sex can be rather quiet. Fully expressed does not mean super loud and performative. It means giving yourself the permission, thus granting the other permission, to be fully IN the pleasure experience, how ever that looks.


  1. The more my client was ‘up in their head’ I would notice I would get ‘up in my head’ too. and vise versa.

 If one partner is up in their head, so too is the other. It doesn’t matter which is which and who is who. When...

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As the mist of my orgasm lifted and I landed back into my reality from the cosmos, I received the words “YOU ARE YOUR EXPERIENCE”.
It was the previous night’s gentle, rhythmically slow lovemaking that had me so inspired to fuel my own flames of radiance and juiciness, whilst my man was out mowing our lawn.
He walked in from putting all his tools away.
“Hunny, what’s happened here? You’re glowing!”
Was it the way my sheer goddess dress wrapped around my breasts and body?
The way my hair was tassled and glissening from the residue of the elixir I had massaged onto my yoni?
Was it my beaming smile or how I lounged in my office chair, as if I was floating on a lily pad?
It was that I was radiant. I was juicy.
It was that I appeared ravishingly delicious.
It was my vibe.
I had filled my self up with orgasmic bliss, which gives the side effect of...
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It’s one of those things I hear time and time again.
It is also one of those things I have been looped in.
It is the Talk It Out Method. Or less commonly known as the Talksie, Talksie, Talksie Method (cause I just made that up, Ha!).
It goes on and on and on. Round and round and round.
Often this is where it stays. The thing that you talk over and over about stays stuck.
Whether it’s a big vision dream that you are dying to pursue, whether it’s a problem or an issue that you want to breakthrough. Or perhaps it’s a pity party and you’re the hostee too.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I have loved my time with the Talksie, Talksie, Talksie Method. It’s served my righteousness, my victimhood and I got to bequeath my responsibility.
Let’s see how it might look…
Image there is this thing that has happened to you. And you talk about it to your girlfriends. And you talk...
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Contraction and Disconnection, meeting your avoidance.

erotic sensuality sex tantra Nov 26, 2020


Contraction and disconnection are the antithesis to a life of bloom and flight.

Or perhaps a reflective moment for recalibration...

I feel the grip of contraction in my body, as it slithers like a lovers hand up my torso.

My gut clenches, my heart goes numb, and the contraction grips, blocks and sets in my throat.

A sense of feeling adrift in the mind sea.

Directionless, powerless, anxious.


From here I enter, disconnection.

My disconnection presents as avoidance and non engagement.

It turns into muteness.


Laced with the undertone of wanting to do something, but not knowing what that something is. Nor how to express it. In sets the stagnation and stillness.

It becomes so uncomfortable that movement begins to stir again. The pushing against the cocoon to break and allow some sunlight back in.

And so, once again.

Re emergence through another cycle.  Ebbs and flows of life.

I try my best to be aware of this stillness and not fear it. As I...

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Turning on your Erotic Imagination: Inspiration Abound

erotic sensuality sex tantra Nov 26, 2020

Sitting on my porch early this morning I watched the lady across the road pull into her driveway. She had a crumpled jacket tucked under one arm as she surveyed her flowers in the front yard. She slid her key into her door lock and I saw her hair was ruffled and messy. She closed the door, went into house.

Where had she been?

My curiosity sparked.

Was she just returning home from an all night's escapade with a new lover?

Oh, how delightful.

Had she even slept yet?!


Few moments later I looked up to see a woman walking up the same side of the street, and a couple of feet in front of her is a dog.

I assumed it was her dog although it was not on a lead.

As they walked up the footpath, the dog jumped into the yard of the ladies house.

The woman continued walking. She looked at the dog, but kept walking. I expected her as she walked past the last fence post of the yard, to call in the dog.

The dog was now in the yard sniffing the plants.

With no call and no look back...

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The BIG O. Expanding your Mind on the pleasure of Orgasms

erotic sensuality sex tantra Nov 26, 2020

I believe that when an individual expands their definition of what an orgasm is... 

They become more orgasmic.

I was feeling tiredness sweep my mind. So I grabbed a book from my library ‘The War of Art’ by Steven Pressfield and laid down on my sofa to lull my mind in a focused way. My intention was to diffuse the thoughts than the current ones that were regurgitating around my mind.

As I laid, I was noticing I was missing something.

Someone, maybe?

As I kept reading, I also mentally scanned my body.

I could feel the buzzy that was taking place.

It was me, I was missing just feeling myself from the INSIDE.

Being in the aliveness that is within the stillness of my body.

I put my book down, and closed my eyes.


Feeling the vibration in my hand. Being with the sensations of my body container. Feeling where parts of my body feel cool and my chest felt warm.

The noisy silence.

The activation occurring with my clitoris as I focus on the stirring of...

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