DEATH IS A LENSE TO VIEW LIFE
Jun 01, 2022
Early last month my step father, my mother’s husband, my brother’s father, was suddenly taken. Gone. A tragic accident. Reminding me again of the physical finality of death.
It had been years since death last visited so close to home. 20 years since the passing of my sister, 17 years since the passing of my grandfather. Members of my inner circle of family.
And as death always does, brings me to the place of deep grief, many full expressions from the emotional wave and reflections of my own life and my own living.
It has been a month of weaving through it all. Holding hearts and hands through grief and loss.
Always bringing me back to a place of assessing life. Assessing places where I limit myself, and the parts I want to celebrate. The parts of my life that need a spring clean, and the parts that need a good reno. Most importantly death asks me what I want to experience through living.
It asks me to honestly reflect if my desires...
I NOTICED THE WAY I WANTED TO FIX HER
Jun 01, 2022
Make her feel ‘better’ not so sad.
But to shift her out of her emotion is to deny her.
It is to deny her the full truth of her experience, her memories and her longing for something different.
To snap her out would invalidate her just to shift my own uncomfortability. Rip her from the path that will bring her ease. I would be ripping her off. Full stop.
And I love her that much that I know where my work is.
I see her so much that I know how to serve her and what my place in this is.
It’s not in fixing her so I can be comfortable. Not in healing her so I can feel better that her pain is gone.
It’s in holding my own self through my discomfort whilst being of service to her.
And that just looks like being there. Being here. Now. With her.
Welcoming all there is, with grace. The more I can ground my anchor point deep into the earth, as I too am held, the deeper I can drop to her...
Author
Allonie Morris
Somatic Sexologist
Allonie Morris is a passionate Somatic Sexologist, Tantric Practitioner, creatress of Temple Venus and host of The Sexy, Sacred & Juicy Woman Podcast. Allonie is also a riveting speaker of eroticism and sexuality, workshop facilitator and a specialist in Erotic Embodiment.
