5 things I learnt while being a Sex Worker.

5 really important things I learnt about pleasure, embodiment and of course sex, whilst being a full time Sex Worker.

1. Sex is better when the other person is into it, like really into it.

And what I’m referring to here is the authentic pleasure experience that is unbridled, uninhibited and fully expressed. Not shrouded in self judgement, Critism and body image issues that is keeping you disconnected from fully enjoying yourself and your lover.

Now this can look different on many fronts. Ie, estatic sex can be rather quiet. Fully expressed does not mean super loud and performative. It means giving yourself the permission, thus granting the other permission, to be fully IN the pleasure experience, how ever that looks.

2. The more my client was ‘up in their head’ I would notice I would get ‘up in my head’ too. and vise versa.

 If one partner is up in their head, so too is the other. It doesn’t matter which is which and who is who. When you are being sexually intimate with someone that is being mind based versus pleasure and body based during the deed, you  may find yourself mirroring that too. So for the love of orgasms and all that is earth shatterly sexy, get in your body. Be the regulated nervous system in the room. Connect with your body, move from that space. Your partner will then mirror you. If you get lost, SLOW DOWN, connect with your breath, ground, move from that place.

If you want to be all mind, hope out of bed and go play chess.

3. There’s attraction and then there’s orgasms. They are separate. One doesn’t need the other.

I had many many orgasms with people I was not physically attracted to. Because it’s about PLEASURE. The art and skill of pleasure embodiment is essential to your orgasmic potential. NOT your attraction to or lack there of for your partner. Or even how attractive or unattractive you feel. In long term relationships, attraction can weane. So be in your pleasure. Allow your body to guide you. Follow your pleasure. Ask yourself, what could make this even more pleasurable. Ask your partner. THIS WILL reignite your attraction for your partner if. But learn the art of pleasure and erotic embodiment. 

Over my 7 years of working I was a range of sizes, a petite 10 and upto a size 16. And I tell you now, great pleasurable sex has nothing to do with your size. The secret truly is in accessing and awakening you body to pleasure. The issue however is, your mindset of your physical body. Too fat, too skinny, too this or too that. Work on the way you see yourself. Because I can tell already, you are a Sexual Goddess!

4. Mind blowing sex is 20% technique, 50% self pleasure presence & 30% partner attunement. 

If you are having sex with your partner, have sex WITH THEM. otherwise you are just masturbating on them. Which is a total turn on when everyone’s on the same page, but if not, and you aren’t attuned to your partners body, responses and communication, wtf are you doing? If you ever get stuck or think you missed a que, just ask this question “how would you love to be touched right now?” It’s actually probably the sexiest question you can ask. 

5. My ability to turn on, tap in and ignite my pleasure is the most important knowledge and embodied wisdom I have when it comes to my very high quality sex life.

I did not wake up like this, until one day, I did. Practice, practice, practice. Have a self pleasure practice, exercise your erotic imagination, explore awakening all your senses and often, turn everyday experiences into exquisite pleasure moments. You’re life and panties will be alight! Go into your sexual encounter WARM, not straight from the cold room. Prepare yourself for lovemaking or a sexual rendevous, just like you would going to work.

Create an appointment or schedule your self and your partner in for luscious sex and deep intimacy. You make important appointments all the time. Your relationship and sexual wellbeing absolutely deserves your devotion and presence.

Omg! There is so much absolutely fucking gold I have learnt about sex. And not just any sex. The fulfilling AF and utterly satisfied, no room for dessert, kind of gourmet SEX.

And Yes, I specialise in getting YOU IN YOUR BODY, PLEASURE & Erotic EMBODIMENT. So you can totally have the sex you deeply crave, completely can have & absolutely deserve!

Book in for a call with ME! It’s gonna be one hell of a juicy conversation.

Yum!